Clique Dinner > Party At Fclub
Quite an ugly group photo but this had to do, bcos its the only one we have. So we had a clique dinner on friday night at changi village. We ate at supper club and the food was so yummy as usual. Bought alcohol from there and we headed to cq. Drank at the bridge and headed into fclub. The alcohol tasted so damn bad. First time drinking black label and i felt like puking only at my fourth cup.
Partied till around 4am then we all cabbed back to central to have supper before heading home. What a tiring night! The next day, it was cuzzie eleanor's big day and i only had barely 4 hours of sleep to keep me awake for the whole fucking day.
Eleanor's wedding day and tea ceremony
There was a photobooth outside the dinner hall and as usual, we goofed around and snapped lots of pictures! So nice to finally meet most of the cousins again and catch up about our lives. The tea ceremony was at Fort canning hotel, and from there we headed over to the joyden hall and bugis + for the early wedding dinner. The wedding dinner was a little different from traditional weddings, and a little more modernised concept i would say? When i saw eleanor walk down the aisle with uncle jooleow towards marcus, i didnt know why but i was feeling so overwhelmed and touched that i cried. Perhaps i was so happy for her, she finally found her happiness and the two were so so fucking sweet. Their love, is one to learn from, and one to look up to. Its never easy to be with someone for 8 years, and now, tying the knot and spending lives together forever. It takes two people to never give up to have that kind of love for each other, and i would definitely say this two has it. Blessed and blissful marriage, Marcus and Eleanor!
It got me thinking then, what makes a relationship, a marriage, and love from two hearts work?
I wouldnt dare to say im a love guru, a professional in love, or someone with lots of experience in love. But i am really certain that the main pointers to always have to make love work is
to have trust, to never give up, to never take for granted and to always forgive and forget.
Correct me if im wrong.
Love is trusting someone wholeheartedly, not being afraid to allow someone to have the ability to completely shatter your heart and entrusting it to them.
And truthfully, before vin asked me to be his gf, i was afraid. I wasnt sure if im ready to break all my walls down and let someone in completely again after my heart was being broken before. Its scary bcos i wouldnt know if he would break it, just like how everyone that left me did. And i didnt want to bear that heartache again. Who would? But it all comes down to that one thing isnt it? I couldnt control how i felt for him, it kept growing and growing, to this point where i myself didnt know that i already had let him in, and it was this amazing feeling that i cant explain.
"And, while, it’s never “love” at first sight, there certainly is a connection; an unspoken, indescribable feeling that this is a person that is supposed to be in your life. Your entire body is telling you, like it’s connected to a magnet, that you have to talk to this person, get to know them, and have them in your life in some sort of capacity.
To fall in love with someone is literally the most magical, mystical, and frankly, indescribable feeling in the world. It happens, suddenly and without hesitation." - Elite Daily, What Its Really Like to Fall in Love
And while its scary to break it all down and allow someone into your heart, wouldnt you rather take that risk and never regret looking back thinking, " i should have went for it." than saving your heart from heartache and not knowing what would the outcome be like? I guess its never completely one person's fault when love doesn't work out. Both parties always have some part to blame. which is why, love is an incredible thing, it may seem like its pain, and heartbreak when its all bad, but it takes two person's give and take, love and love and love again to make sure pain and heartbreak wouldnt come in between the relationship. Bcos when love is all good, and when two people constantly puts in effort, love is amazing. It’s the story of the couple that dies within hours of each other because their heart is so broken without the other.
okay, pardon me for writing a shitload of crap if you're still reading my blogpost at this point, but sometimes, when i have nothing to do, i think alot about these things and often i have this urge to write about it. So do not read on next time when you see alot of words and you're the sort that doesnt like reading these "bullcraps" im writing.
Going back to where i was before, this are just my views on what love is, and how to keep love working. I might be wrong, and there might be people with other views on what love is, but i'll live by these pointers in mine. And yknow, i've never regretted putting my heart out there, though i may never know what the future would hold for me and vin, i know i made the right choice. I have never felt like this before, its different this time.
Promise me whatever happens, you wouldnt stop trying? Bcos i know i wouldnt, babe. I'll be behind you supporting you in every step you take towards the future. I love you so much. Bcos you loved me when i wasnt capable of loving myself, and you showed me what second love can bring.
I shall end my long-winded blogpost and rants about love with this last quote,
Falling in love is a choice, but not the choice you think. It’s the choice to allow yourself not to be scared. It’s the choice of letting go of your own guard. That the choice we make when we fall in love, and it’s the hardest one to decide. But, once we do, we are in for the ride of a lifetime. -Elite Daily
Kiss me - Ed Sheeran
